Before You Text Her: The Gut Check
Stop Overthinking and Start Texting with Confidence.
You know the feeling:
- Staring at your phone, rewriting the same text five times.
- Waiting for her response thinking she's lost interest.
- Checking if she’s read your message (again).
- Texting just to keep her attention and regretting it later.
- Feeling like she has all the power in the situation.
You want to connect with her, but instead, you feel anxious, needy, and trapped in a game you can't win.
Texting isn’t the problem.
The problem is not knowing why you’re texting in the first place.
Texting Women is Hard.
You meet a woman, on a dating app, maybe in person, and suddenly every message feels like a high-stakes test.
You want to come across as interesting, funny, likeable. You drop a joke… and then silence.
Minutes pass. Your chest tightens. Your mind spins:
“Did she take it the wrong way?”
“Was that too much?”
“Is she already talking to someone else?”
Half an hour goes by. You’re rewriting the same text five times, trying to explain that the joke was just a joke. By now, you’re exhausted, frustrated with yourself, and ready to hit send on a paragraph you’ll probably regret.
Then finally: “lol.”
Relief washes over you, but only for a moment… because the cycle resets with your next message.
Why this Keeps Happening
Most men fall into the same trap: when we text women, we put all the focus on how she sees us.
- We text just to check if she’s still interested.
- We worry about saying the “right” thing instead of what we actually mean.
- We chase validation instead of connection.
And when our sense of confidence depends on her responses, we stop being authentic. We’re no longer grounded. We’re not leading, we’re reacting.
That’s why texting feels like a minefield: we’ve handed over all the power without even realizing it.
The shift you need to make
Texting shouldn't be about proving yourself. It shouldn't be about chasing her attention or constantly monitoring her reactions.
Texting should feel light, easy, and genuine. It should be about connection, not validation.
But to get there, you need to ground yourself before you hit send. You need a way to pull you out of that anxious spiral and remind yourself of what you want, not what you’re trying to get from her.
This is why I wrote the FREE guide:
👉Before You Text Her — Check Your Gut
If you're tired of feeling powerless when texting, like you have to do all the work, then it's time to check in with yourself.
With your guide, you’ll discover:
- How to seek connection rather than validation (and why most guys confuse the two).
- Ways to gain control over the anxiety, overthinking, and frustration that comes with texting women.
- How to stop feeling like you NEED her to respond to you, and start .
- The mindset shift that turns texting from a trap into a tool.
This isn’t another list of “openers” or copy-and-paste lines. This isn't a list of "rules" to follow, but about helping you understand yourself better. It's about rewiring how you think before you ever press send.
What the good women really respond to is a man who's ground and confident, and the best way to do that is to check in with your gut and be clear on what it is you really want in a situation
Why this Matters
Without this gut check, you’ll keep:
- Sending filler texts just to keep her attention and ultimately kill attraction.
- Chasing her attention instead of building a real connection.
- Settling for women who don’t respect you.
- Losing time, energy, and confidence to endless texting games.
- Feeling like she has all the power in the situation.
With this guide, you’ll:
- Know what you're texting and why.
- Keep your self-respect intact no matter how she responds.
- Spot the difference between a high-value woman and a time-waster.
- Build the kind of connection you actually want without games or guesswork.
Start Texting with Confidence Today
Change how you text tonight.
Women don’t respect guys who kowtow to them, who constantly try to suck up, or bid for their attention. They respect men who know what they want, and act like it.
Get your guide and start asking yourself deep questions to gain control over your texting, and dating, situation.
It's time you took back your power and your confidence.